Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find - and keep - love

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'This book is nothing short of life changing. It gives us a new vocabulary by which to understand ourselves and others. Attached is the kind of book that makes its way through friendship circles, a gift from one person to another. Your only gripe will be that you wish you'd read it sooner.' - Jessie Stephens, author of Heartsick Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognise the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. While working with mothers and children in a therapeutic nursery, that he first discovered the power of attachment theory. His clinical work together with his deep understanding of the brain from a neuroscientist's perspective contribute to his appreciation of attachment theory. Amir lives in New York City. Rachel Heller, M.A. studied at Columbia University with some of the most prominent scholars in the field of social psychology. She now works with families and couples as a psychologist in private practice. Rachel lives in Israel.

Should be essential reading for everyone. Reading this book I understood for the first time why my love life was the way it was . . . Such a vital read to help you understand your own behaviour and that of others. -- Marianne Power * Sunday Telegraph * Revelatory -- The New York Times A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship. -- John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships. * Publishers Weekly * A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships. * Kirkus Reviews * Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or - as in my case - even after you've been married twenty-one years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse. * Scientific American * For its many, many fans, Attached has been life changing. -- Stylist Anyone who has been plagued by that age-old question - 'What is his deal?" - could benefit from a crash course in attachment theory. * Elle * A fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures - finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on twenty-five years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader. -- Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research