Sex Points: Reclaim Your Sex Life with the Revolutionary Multi-point System

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Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus believes a healthy, fulfilling sex life is a right for all women. But many women don't quite believe that themselves; they think that a diminished sex drive is natural, pain during sex is to be expected, and no orgasms?...well, too bad! As a veteran sex therapist, Dr. Marcus has seen everything and knows firsthand that all that is rubbish. Most of the books you find on how to have a good sex life focus on emotional intimacy and behavior--or, like the Cosmo quizzes say, sexy lingerie and a beach vacation. But there's more to it than that. For most women, while there are relationship and emotional components that are critical to a healthy sex life, there is also a hefty physiological or medical component driving their desire. And until you know what's really going on, all the lingerie and sexy couples' time won't really help. Your sex life is complex, made up many different aspects of your life; these variables shift and change over time--and all the variables need to work together to make your sex life work. Sex Points is the first book that helps women and identify analyze for themselves what factors are affecting their sex life and then gives a wide variety of ways to approach different problems. The book breaks down these variables in an easy-to-use system--one that uses a threshold of 100 points for a healthy sex life. Divided into four key areas--pain, arousal, libido, and orgasm--each variable has its own point value. The Sex Points Assessment helps you determine exactly what is keeping you from having a great sex life-where you are missing points. Specific chapters address the issues with practical suggestions. Whatever it is, the points system gives you a concrete picture of your situation and then gives you the tools to fix it. Covering everything from how to choose a vibrator to recapturing orgasms, to rekindling lust, embracing taboo fantasies, and parsing complicated relationships, to what sex really means (hint: it's not just intercourse!), Sex Points is a revelatory guide to ensure women get the rich sex life they deserve.

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is founder and director of Maze Women's Sexual Health, the largest independent women's sexual health center in the country. For twenty years, she personally has developed and overseen the treatment of thousands of women ages 18-81. Dr. Marcus' professional work has been profiled in numerous publications, including the New York Times Magazine and Lenny Letter. She has also been a guest on MSNBC. Dr. Marcus is a Licensed Clinical Social worker, with a master's in public health, a master's degree in social work, a master's degree in Jewish studies and a PhD in Human Sexuality. Her dissertation on women and vibrator use was published in a peer review journal and has been cited in several books and articles.

"A healthy sex life is as much emotional as it is physiological, and Dr. Bat Sheva gives a great perspective and insight. This book is a must read, especially when healing from sexual wounds and/or negative experiences while trying to identify what truly impacts your sex life."--Dr. Anna Cabeca, Triple Board Certified, OBGYN, author of The Hormone Fix "Dr. Bat Sheva is not afraid to take controversial stance or bust some myths if she believes it's going to help, and her toolkit is both wide and deep. Much more than just a talk-therapist, Dr. Bat Sheva is a take-action therapist and Sex Points will guide you from insight to implementation."--Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First "Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus breaks down the root causes of sexual issues and lays out an inviting and abundant buffet of scientifically researched tools available to you to recover your sex drive and orgasm. We have for too long simply accepted that it's normal to struggle with sex and hormonal issues, especially as we age. It's just not true. Get yourself educated and get your sex points plan together!" --Alisa Vitti, founder of FLO Living, best-selling author of WomanCode and In the FLO "Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus has written a truly comprehensive and compassionate guide to reclaiming your sex life. Sex Points provides you with a revolutionary points system along with a detailed assessment that will help you to determine exactly what is going on, along with myriad effective solutions to address the problems and gain points. Definitely one to have on your shelf!"--Nicole Jardim, Certified Women's Health Coach, author of Fix Your Period "For any woman who has ever been told 'You just need to relax, ' 'You and your partner need to take a vacation, ' or 'It's all in your head'--the wisdom in these pages will come as a welcome relief and validation that the simple platitudes we often tell women are not only insulting, but just plain wrong. This is by far the best book that is currently available for women who are having problems with sex."--Paul Joannides, PsyD, author of Guide To Getting It On "I know of no other book that so thoroughly presents the myriad causes and solutions to women's sexual problems; Dr. Bat Sheva seamlessly integrates psychological, medical, hormonal, relational and emotional causes and solutions. I will be recommending this book to my students and my clients for years to come."--Dr. Laurie Mintz, licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide To Passionate Sex