Your Symphony of Selves: Discover and Understand More of Who We Are

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Why you are a different you at different times and how that's both normal and healthy * Reveals that each of us is made up of multiple selves, any of which can come to the forefront in different situations * Offers examples of healthy multiple selves from psychology, neuroscience, pop culture, literature, and ancient cultures and traditions * Explores how to harmonize our selves and learn to access whichever one is best for a given situation Offering groundbreaking insight into the dynamic nature of personality, James Fadiman and Jordan Gruber show that each of us is comprised of distinct, autonomous, and inherently valuable "selves." They also show that honoring each of these selves is a key to improved ways of living, loving, and working. Explaining that it is normal to have multiple selves, the authors offer insights into why we all are inconsistent at times, allowing us to become more accepting of the different parts of who we and other people are. They explore, through extensive reviews, how the concept of healthy multiple selves has been supported in science, popular culture, spirituality, philosophy, art, literature, and ancient traditions and cite well-known people, including David Bowie and Beyonce, who describe accessing another self at a pivotal point in their lives to resolve a pressing challenge. Instead of seeing the existence of many selves as a flaw or pathology, the authors reveal that the healthiest people, mentally and emotionally, are those that have naturally learned to appreciate and work in harmony with their own symphony of selves. They identify "the Single Self Assumption" as the prime reason why the benefits of having multiple selves has been ignored. This assumption holds that we each are or ought to be a single consistent self, yet we all recognize, in reality, that we are different in different situations. Offering a pragmatic approach, the authors show how you can prepare for situations by shifting to the appropriate self, rather than being "switched" or "triggered" into a sub-optimal part of who you are. They also show how recognizing your selves provides increased access to skills, talent, and creativity; enhanced energy; and improved healing and pain management. Appreciating your diverse selves will give you more empathy toward yourself and others. By harmonizing your symphony of selves, you can learn to be "in the right mind at the right time" more often.

James Fadiman, Ph.D., with degrees from Harvard and Stanford, was the president of two companies, taught at four universities, is an international seminar leader, and has written textbooks, trade books, and novels. Consulting clients have included IBM, Hewlett-Packard, a Federal Reserve bank, and Foster's Freeze. He is one of the foremost researchers in microdosing studies and is a co-founder of Sophia University. He has been researching healthy multiplicity for over 20 years and lives with his filmmaker wife In Menlo Park, California. Jordan Gruber, J.D., writer, collaborative writer, ghost writer, and editor, has forged and sculpted authoritative volumes in forensic law, financial services, and self-development. A graduate of Binghamton University and the University of Virginia School of Law, he founded the Enlightenment.com website and is now a leading advocate of rebound exercise through the SuperBound Project. He lives in Menlo Park, California, with his wife and family.

"Kudos to the authors for their diligent research, original thinking, and courageous pioneering that changes the foundational assumptions of modern psychology to more closely resemble who we truly are." * Anodea Judith, Ph.D., author of Eastern Body, Western Mind * "Rigorous, engaging, and pleasurable to read. I'm ecstatic about their ennobling upgrade in the understanding of what it means to be human." * Rob Brezsny, author of Pronoia Is the Antidote for Paranoia * "This wonderful book urges us to look at ourselves and our lives in an entirely new way. We are not a single self, the authors teach us, but rather we contain multiple selves, each valuable in its own way. This lovely book will help you understand and embrace who you are and who you could be." * Ayelet Waldman, author of A Really Good Day * "This masterful, comprehensive exploration of the diversity within us is both fascinating and useful. With grace and erudition, the authors explore the nooks and crannies of our minds--and in the variety of 'selves' they find there is, paradoxically, a profound and healing sense of wholeness and freedom." * Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of Neurodharma * "This book exquisitely explores the age-old and yet seemingly new theme that we are made up of different 'moving parts.' Talking to yourself is not just reserved for eccentric people on subways but an inner psychodrama that can lead us toward a more integrated, 'together,' symphonic self. Now I can, and will, tell clients: 'Read this book, and then come back and talk to me!'" * Stephen Larsen, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology at SUNY Ulster * "This insightful book creates a landscape of perspective with profound implications for understanding the psychology of human beings. A must-read for every person interested in self-discovery." * Bill Linton, executive director and co-founder of Usona Institute * "A profound, brilliant, and convincing account of the many entities that make up each of us. I hope it will have the success and influence it deserves." * Richard Smoley, author of A Theology of Love * "Based on what I've read in this book, I now more clearly recognize some of my own selves: my scientist self, my personal growth self, my spiritual self, my 'Am I kind of crazy sometimes?' self . . .and all of them are getting valuable ideas and practices to become more harmonious. My thanks to Fadiman and Gruber for this remarkable book!" * Charles T. Tart, Ph.D., author of Altered States of Consciousness * "A tour de force on the multiple manifestations--scientifically, artistically, religiously, and culturally--of the multiple persons and personalities each one of us inhabits. No matter how skeptical your point of view before you read this book, it will make you think, and you will take it seriously." * Ari Mark Cartun, rabbi emeritus of Congregation Etz Chayim in Palo Alto * "Astoundingly, my various persona all seem to agree that Fadiman and Gruber have unpacked this complex topic in ways that are factual, insightful, and extremely useful--a must-read for most, if not all, of your selves." * Foster Gamble, president and cofounder of Clear Compass Media * "From the microbiome in our gut to the voices in our heads, each of us is a community, as the authors explain in this fascinating, delightful book. The illusion of a single unitary self interferes with clear thinking about everything from immunology to psychiatry to the nature of community. We are each a symphony of selves, and my selves highly recommend this book to your selves." * Chris Ryan, coauthor of Sex at Dawn * "In clear, practical prose, and drawing from a wealth of religious, philosophical, and psychological materials, the authors make a strong, clear case that is brilliantly couched as a seductive invitation: just stop believing you are a single self, and start to orchestrate and befriend the varied and fractious clan that you are." * Erik Davis, author of High Weirdness * "James Fadiman has consistently been walking, exploring, and illuminating the cutting edge of culture for the past half century. This book is no exception, and with it, Fadiman and his scholarwriter partner, Jordan Gruber, intellectually investigate and prosaically dance in a way that recognizes and honors the many voices within us all." * Dana Ullman, MPH, CCH, author of The Homeopathic Revolution * "This is a very special book! This idea of a 'symphony of selves' reflects what has always been understood among indigenous peoples--and so the book digs deeply into essential universal truths. A treasure to enjoy and learn with and from." * Richard Katz, Ph.D., author of Indigenous Healing Psychology * "The idea that our sense of self is illusory and that we all contain different selves may seem strange at first. But the great accomplishment of Your Symphony of Selves is that it doesn't just make this idea perfectly sensible, the authors show how it can help us better understand ourselves and how cultivating and integrating those multiple selves makes us healthier and happier." * Alex Soojung-Kim Pang, Ph.D., author of Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less--Here's How * "A tour de force that pulls together insights from psychiatry, philosophy, religion, neurology, the humanities, and the social and behavioral sciences. Profound, yet entertaining, it plumbs deeply into rarely explored depths of the human psyche. It even contains activities and exercises that its readers can employ, soon realizing that they may never be the same again." * Stanley Krippner, Ph.D., co-author of Personal Mythology * "My cousin James Fadiman has an uncanny ability to take a problem, turn it calmly in his hands, look at it from many angles, and solve it, always with a glint of amusement in his eye. Until I read this book he wrote with Gruber, it had never occurred to me that what enables those multiple angles is his sense that he isn't confined to a single self. He is a team! The ideas in this book seem simple, but that's the point: why make things hard when they could be easy?" * Anne Fadiman, author of The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down * "Nowhere are Fadiman and Gruber's words 'being in the right mind at the right time' more applicable than for the military fighter pilot. The world moving, quite literally, at Mach 1 creates an unforgiving cauldron where incoherent or incongruent thought yields catastrophic results. The difference between life and death depends on fighter pilots finding their mental best selves." * Buster Glosson, three-star general, USAF (Ret.), author of War with Iraq * "In this fascinating book, the authors offer insights that enable us to kindly accept and value ourselves and others. They reveal an incredible opportunity for healthier living through embracing our different selves, leading to psychological cohesion and wholeness." * Darren Cockburn, author of Being Present * "Psychology professor Fadiman (The Psychedelic Explorer's Guide) and lawyer Gruber systematically explore the idea that all humans comprise multiple selves in this engaging yet dense work. Arguing against Freudian theory and the popular presentation of personality multiplicity as a dysfunction, the authors posit that the 'selves' within a person are much more than just moods, rather they're 'recurring patterns of mindbody energy, chemistry, energy, perception, and behavior' that manifest in behavior and physiology...their efforts to reframe and destigmatize the idea of multiple selves will appeal to general readers interested in the nature of human behavior." * Publishers Weekly * "The information in this book was a wonderful confirmation of what I had felt and known for many years. Therefore, I heartily and happily recommend it to all and everyone. Deep within your psyche are treasures undreamed of." * Lesley Crossingham, New Dawn *