The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity

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Imago therapist and author of Getting the Sex You Want, Tammy Nelson, presents The New Monogamy, a revolutionary approach to healing a relationship after infidelity. In The New Monogamy, couples rekindle their trust in each other, engage in Imago dialogues to clarify what both partners really want in a relationship, and make a full erotic recovery by redefining the monogamy contract for the future after the affair. Key Selling Points: ? Tammy Nelson's article in Psychotherapy Networker entitled "The New Monogamy" received attention from Alternet.org, the Washington Post, and CNN, among other media outlets. She has been featured on numerous radio shows since its publication. Page 54 of 83 TIP SHEET TIP SHEET ? The author's previous book, Getting the Sex You Want (ISBN: 978 1592333011), has sold more than 20,000 copies. ? When one or both partners are unfaithful, the original monogamy agreement is broken. This book helps readers maintain a committed, monogamous marriage by presenting a three phase path toward recovering from infidelity and urging readers to create a new monogamy agreement that reflects the couple's true desires. Description: Everyone has their own concept of what "monogamy" means and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it's impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning. Author Bio: Tammy Nelson, PhD, has worked as a psychotherapist for over fifteen years. She is executive director and co founder of the Center for Healing and Recovery in Norwalk, CT, and codirector and cofounder of the Ridgefield Center for Families and Children in Ridgefield, CT. Nelson is a licensed professional counselor, a registered art therapist, a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, and a certified imago relationships therapist. She resides in the New York City area, where she works in her private practice treating anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders using group and expressive therapy.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, has worked as a psychotherapist for over fifteen years. She is executive director and co-founder of the Centre for Healing and Recovery in Norwalk, CT, and co director and cofounder of the Ridgefield Centre for Families and Children in Ridgefield, CT. Nelson is a licensed professional counsellor, a registered art therapist, a licensed alcohol and drug counsellor, and a certified imago relationships therapist. She resides in the New York City area, where she works in her private practice treating anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders using group and expressive therapy.

"The New Monogamy sets Tammy Nelson apart from many other therapists. She doesn't believe affairs simply involve a pathetic victim and an arrogant perpetrator--and that's why she can actually help couples navigate this difficult challenge." --Marty Klein, PhD, author of Sexual Intelligence "The New Monogamy takes an honest look at infidelity and illustrates a clear path toward healing after an affair." --John Gray, PhD, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus "At a time when life can feel so murky and chaotic, along comes Tammy Nelson with this guidebook.... The New Monogamy is as crisp and clear as it is hopeful and realistic. A book to open again and again." --Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity "Infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the road, even though it often feels that way. Couples can, and do, often find their way to an ultimately deeper, more intimate bond, and I can think of no better guide to lead the journey than Tammy Nelson." --Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First "Provocative and juicy, far-reaching and intelligent." --Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair and How Can I Forgive You? "Tammy Nelson is a master therapist who can help you find hope and opportunity in the multiple crises caused by an affair. The New Monogamy offers safe, effective steps through the confusion, betrayal, and hurt--with guidelines for how you can create more honest, erotic, and soul-satisfying relationships." --Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT, author of The Return of Desire and The Heart & Soul of Sex "This book is a game changer for couples dealing with the aftermath of an affair. It is unique in offering hope that this experience can be used to build a new and better relationship. But it offers far more than just hope; it provides detailed guidelines for how to make it happen. Tammy Nelson is a visionary in going beyond the immediate need to develop a new monogamy agreement to include the all-important process of revisiting and revising this agreement over time." --Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth and host of www.dearpeggy.com